SGR Ep105 - Finding Your Identity

finding your identity addiction recovery

Those recovering from alcohol or drugs frequently identify themselves with a scene or lifestyle and have a difficult time connecting with themselves in their new sober identity. They can't enjoy the things they used to enjoy while they were using. They become depressed and lost and isolated.

In childhood, Shane first identified himself as a baseball player, but as he got older, his interests turned to music and the sex, drugs, and rock n roll that inevitably came with live music scene. Later on, after he got sober, he wondered who would he be now?

Shane tells us how he recently took his two-year-old son Cash to a hardcore punk show. There he met two dads who approached him and Cash. Both dads told Shane they used to bring their kids to shows at Cash's age, and they were still bringing them today. Their kids were all grown up, but still having a good time enjoying music with their fathers.

Revisiting his roots with his son helped Shane reconnect with his identity. Finally, his journey back to music comes full circle, and he knows he can enjoy it again with his son ... sober.


"It means something different now, but it all feels like home again. I feel like me again." 


  • Have you lost that sense of identity traveling down an uncertain or unexpected path?

  • How do you find it again?


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